Anger management in children is one of the top mental health concerns in childcare. Anger and the ability to control it are key skills of adulthood. Children must learn to overcome anger so that they do not fall a foul of strict societal controls on violent conduct. However, this is difficult for children to learn to manage since anger is remarkably powerful.

Why do children and young people get angry?

Everyone gets angry. It’s a build-up of a feeling when something’s gone wrong. While it’s a normal emotion to feel, it can be unpleasant to be around.

Anger issues are a top mental health concern for children contacting Childline, with many struggling to regulate their emotions during challenging situations and some sharing that they are aggressively criticise themselves. For schools and parents, our responsibility is to help children understand what they’re feeling when they feel angry. Children should know that although they can’t control their feelings, they can find ways to manage their behaviour, so they don’t cause themselves or others harm. Finding an appropriate way to release anger is a valuable lesson for life.

When the initial anger has subsided it’s likely that it’s followed by low feelings of regret and sadness. When it’s possible to talk, it’s worth encouraging children to reflect so they can identify what their emotional triggers are in particular situations.

Anger is often caused by miscommunication and unrealistic expectations. If your child’s angry because of a mistake you’ve made, it’s entirely appropriate to apologise; It models accountability. Explain to your child that verbal abuse and violence is not ok and how it can make the person on the receiving end feel. This will teach them empathy.

More tips and advice from the NSPCC.